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I thought doing a post on Long Distance Relationships and Online Dating could come in a lot of handy since so many people these days are meeting on the internet and that person you meet and find a strong connection with may live states away.
Online Dating
Whether you're searching for a possible mate, boyfriend, or what-have-you on your dating website of choice, I want to point out that it isn't always safe and it is CRITICAL you always do research on someone before you go on a date with them.
♡If at all possible, copy their pictures and reverse search them in google to see if there are any matches, and if so click on the link and find out where it originates from, if any seem to not make much since or makes you question their credibility, do not give them a second of your time, block them, and report their lying asses.
♡Google all the information they give you. Search their username, their name, their email, and their phone number. It is possible that someone has put their information on a blacklist if there was something wrong with the person (maybe their picture was from years ago, the information on their profile was false, or maybe they aren't who they say all together). Searching phone numbers is always smart. Some of the websites will have complaints about a specific number. Googling information about someone is just about all it takes to make sure this person is who they say they are.
♡Background Check. Not everyone has the resources to background check every single person they meet on a website (me being one of them), but there is one website that can search if this person has been arrested and for what. You need information on their name and age and the information isn't always the most accurate! This is a free website and I wouldn't expect it to be equivalent to a paid background check, but it's better safe than sorry. http://www.criminalpages.com
♡Do not give out details about yourself that could lead to him finding out where you live. No last name or phone number. Big no-no until you have established a connection of trust between each other. There are definitely weirdos and creeps out there who may try stalking you.
♡Never trust anyone! If you get a bad feeling at any time, from the first message to during your first date, get out. If that means ignoring him online to politely excusing yourself from the date, you must do it. Gut feelings are often giving us sub-conscious warnings which are smart to listen to and could end up saving your life. If everything about your date adds up and you STILL get a funny feeling, listen to it. I cannot stress this enough.
Long Distance Relationships
I have had my share of long distance relationships and it is honestly hard to find one that is fulfilling and it definitely requires more effort from both parties than a typical relationship would. I am currently in a quite successful exclusive relationship with a man who lives a few states away and I will gladly give tips on what keeps this kind of relationship going; whether you met online or if you're continuing a relationship after moving or going off to college.
♡Trust and honesty is the most important thing. If you cannot trust your partner, do not even try this. Of course, it's going to be difficult to always feel 100% confident about his/her faithfulness, but if you are able to keep communication with each other, it can make all the difference. Feeling jealous? Anxious? Worried? Say something! But do not go in with an angry attitude; stay rational. Being able to be open to each other about emotions is a must and can really strengthen a relationship.
♡Skype whenever possible. It's honestly just about the closest thing you can get without actually being there with them. Nothing beats being able to see their smiles in real time to your conversations and your actions. But when all else fails, talk on the phone! Do these daily! Do not just rely on texting, it's so much more impersonal.
♡This may not be for everybody, but keep things interesting! Phone sex, sexting/sexy pictures, or even cam some. It can be quite a change up from the real thing, but it can sure be fun and is a great alternative. Always express your feelings to each other, which ties with the first tip.
♡If money doesn't allow you two to meet up as often as you like, I would consider buying a care package for him/her. Get a small box and fill it with things that make you think of your partner. It doesn't even have to be major; it could be just a letter and a small gift. I know for a fact they will love it no matter! It really is such a special thing you could do.
There are also MANY ideas of things you could do in your long distance relationship at this website
I greatly recommend trying some of these things and since the list is so extensive, it could keep you guys busy with fun things to do for days.
If any of you have any questions, want some advice, or just tell me something privately
feel free to email me
theclichemermaid@yahoo.com
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